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The Belief You Have to Change



Becoming a Sun

by David Karchere

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This Week’s Quotation:

This step is radical because it is the movement out of the belief that you have to change. Think about all the efforts you have made to grow, to learn, and to form new habits or behaviors. Think about all the discipline you have applied in your life to become a better person, a more knowledgeable person, and a more lovable person. Think about all the ways you have sought a more enlightened or a more loving experience.

No doubt, all those efforts played their part in your life journey. They might still. But it is hard to make that much effort over as many years as you have been making it without adopting a belief that there is something wrong with you—something that needs to change. And more important, that you are what needs to change. That’s not exactly self-affirming!

Becoming a Sun, p. 248

The Belief You Have to Change

David Karchere
Author, Becoming a Sun

In this mini-chapter of my book, I address selfhood and the sense of shame people tend to have about themselves. Our culture applauds self-improvement. We adulate athletes who condition themselves to excel at their sport, musicians who practice for hours a day, and people who go to the salon for Botox treatments.

Self-care and self-improvement can be noble endeavors. What I am addressing is that they can be a coverup for shame. Our commercial culture is all too ready to pile on, trying to convince us that their product is the antidote for our self-doubt. Religion and personal growth experts can pile on, too, shaming us for simply being human.

Self-improvement and self-assurance can be at odds in a person’s experience. Wouldn’t you like to have your cake and eat it too? Wouldn’t you like to be a self-assured person who is constantly developing their capacity to express and embody who they are in the world?

The issue is knowing who we are. While we have to own all of who we are as a human being, when we know the core of ourselves as someone who is loved unconditionally from a place deep within, everything changes. We know we are a being of love with a gift to bring to the world.

As we bring our gift, we become more and more capable of doing so. We grow in our ability to give it. We naturally become on the outside what we already are on the inside. Then acts of self-care and self-improvement are born out of love, not shame. They are life-giving, not life-stealing.

This is becoming a sun.

What does it mean to become a sun?

Every human being is already a sun on the inside—a being of intense love and light. The difference is that some people have the vision and courage to become a sun on the outside. This difference is our human destiny.

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Jane Anetrini
Jane Anetrini
September 10, 2022 5:00 pm

You are the face of God, You are the face of Love. Say that over and over again when you believe there is something wrong with you. The gift you have to give is already within you, let it out and bless the world

Shareen Ewing
Shareen Ewing
September 10, 2022 8:23 am

I can hear Joe Crocker singing “You are so beautiful to me.”
We are on Earth to magnify the Spirit of Love and provide care for ourselves as well as others. No shame. “Come as you are…”
Yes! I am a Sun! And what a joy it is to “let it out”!
Thank you, David.

Linda
Linda
September 9, 2022 6:25 pm

It is a great leap from self-improvement and self-assurance to acknowledgement and recognition, knowing who we truly are. This knowing comes in surrender and letting go of past in recognition that the present state brings the fullness of expression of the truth of our living and giving in revealing the love we share as Human Beings, together creating.

Marilyn Manderson
Marilyn Manderson
September 9, 2022 3:49 pm

This is such a brilliant reminder of how things truly work. Thank you!. From the perspective of our loving presence, and the via the radiance of love, we are we can view what may be blocking our expression in mind and heart and allow diminishing quatlites, such as shame and blame, to be deliberately released, to free ourselves to pour forth love ever more fully..How exhilarating!

Katie-Grace
Katie-Grace
September 9, 2022 3:47 pm

Yes – not shaming ourselves – letting go of shame if we did something we feel bad about – and just as important – not letting another shame us to cover their own behavior. Self care is as important as care for others – love should look like the infinity symbol – the going out and coming in – it counts most when it does. It seems like forgiveness is a vital part of love and freedom from hurt. Living in the space of life-giving….

Tom Cooper
Tom Cooper
September 9, 2022 2:22 pm

Yes, life-giving not life stealing as you indicate, David. THANK you. It is so different to give and to love out of a sense of genuine care and gratitude rather than giving out of obligation or because shame raises and inner voice which says “I did something wrong…now i must make amends in some overt way … ” It is great when the giving and loving are spontaneous and because this impulse comes from who I am – not from my programming. Very much appreciate your thinking. Love, Tom

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